A Guide To Wedding Party Roles and Responsibilities
May 5th, 2021 Wedding IDEAS, INSPIRATION AND INSIDER TIPS
A GUIDE TO WEDDING PARTY ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES
Now that you’ve got the ring, it’s time to pick your wedding party. As a newly engaged bride-to-be you might be asking your best friends to be in your wedding party and as a friend you might be wondering what your responsibilities and roles in accepting to be in the bridal party are. While most traditional parties include specific roles, it’s ultimately up to the bride and their partner on how they would like to designate tasks. As the bride you could want to include multiple maid of honors, a mixed wedding party or even have your pup stand by you on your special day. At the end of the day, it’s entirely up to you.
According to Brides, “Your wedding party is the group of people you want to include in the events leading up to the big day, during the ceremony, and at the reception.” This special group of people aren’t just there for the photo-ops or to hold your bouquet; they’ll be there to help keep you anchored through the stress of planning your memorial day.
Who is In the Wedding Party and What Are Their Responsibilities?
Choosing who to be in your wedding party can be difficult. The last thing you’d want to do is upset anyone by not including them. It’s important to remember though, that this is your big day. To ensure that things don’t get too messy, we recommend including your best friends, siblings, or a close friend. Read on to see the breakdown of wedding party responsibilities.
Maid of Honor
The Maid of Honor is a bride’s go to person and right hand-person. This role is known for being the bride’s honor attendant and is usually the bride’s sister or best friend. If the bride selects a male for the role, he would be known as man of honor. This position holds the highest honor in the entire wedding party and has multiple responsibilities which include making sure bridesmaids are performing their roles, assisting in planning the bridal shower, bachelorette party, and coordinating numerous wedding day details and typically attends bridal appointments and helps with shopping for a wedding dress. Their day-of responsibilities can include adjusting the train, fixing the veil and making a toast to the newlyweds. But most importantly, they’re there to be the backbone for the bride and give emotional support throughout the journey of wedding planning.
The best man is typically a relative or best friend to the groom. He’s the fashion consultant, organizes the bachelor party, and leader of the groomsmen pack. His responsibilities typically include getting the groom down the aisle on time, making sure the wedding officiant receives the ceremony fee, signing the marriage license, and most importantly, holding the wedding rings during the ceremony. He usually writes a speech for the reception and gives any support that’s needed to the bridal party.
This trustworthy group consists of the bride’s closest friends and family members. They have an active role in supporting the maid of honor and helping with pre-wedding tasks such as sending out invitations, creating wedding party favors, assisting with planning the bachelorette party and making sure that guests have everything they need. This group of pals are often expected to keep the party alive on the dance floor and ensure that any last minute wedding day surprises are taken care of. It’s also important to note that if any of your bridesmaids are currently married, the correct terminology for them would be matron of honor. Their responsibilities still remain the same, they just have a slight difference in their name title.
Groomsmen are male attendants to the groom at a wedding and usually consist of close friends and relatives. While the best man holds the highest title, the groomsmen are in charge of planning and paying for the bachelor party. They offer their support by making sure that the groom has his suit ready to go, and helping the bridesmaids with any last minute details that need to be attended to. They also decorate the getaway car if the couple decides to have one and acts as a resource to help guests during the ceremony and reception.
Junior Bridesmaids and Junior Groomsmen
A junior bridesmaid and junior groomsmen is typically a younger member of your wedding party that falls under the ages between 9 to 16. They may be a younger sibling, niece or nephew, cousin or even daughter or son. They’ll attend all major functions leading up to the wedding day, (excluding the bachelor or bachelorette party, of course) and help with the same responsibilities as the senior wedding party. Junior bridesmaids are often also included in getting ready with the bride on the big day and have their own version of a bridesmaids dress.
Wedding Day Ceremony Roles
In addition to wedding party roles, it’s also important to note the positions of those that will be participating on your big day. Though these responsibilities may be smaller, they’re just as equally important to consider when it comes to your wedding planning process.
A small, yet charming role when it comes to your wedding party. While not all couples have a flower girl, this position is typically taken by a little one that ranges between the ages of 3 to 8. They have the role of scattering flowers along the aisle way, just before the bride walks down to the altar. Flower girls typically mark their role the day of the wedding by wearing a flower headdress or crown.
Typically a younger boy or girl from the ages of 4 through 8 hold the position of ring bearer. They’re in charge of walking down the aisle before the flower girl and carrying a small decorative pillow with two wedding bands tied to it. If you’re concerned that they might get lost, consider giving the little one fake bands just in case.
If you plan to include your pet on your wedding day, one of the easiest ways is to have your pet walk down the aisle with the wedding party . Your pet is the ultimate companion who’s there for you through all the ups and down, so why not have them beside you on your special day? If you’re concerned about them walking without a leash, have one of your wedding party members walk down the aisle with them. That way, they’ll be able to be with you during your ceremony.
Often confused with the roles for groomsmen, ushers have a few responsibilities during the wedding planning process and the day of the wedding- greeting guests and showing them to their seats. These roles are usually taken up by additional friends from the bride and groom. Users also wear matching suits that differ from the groomsmen’s attire.
Whether you choose to plan a religious ceremony or not, you will need an officiant for the ceremony. The wedding officiant could be a religious cleric or even a close friend of the bride and groom. Depending on what state you’re tying the knot in and if you choose to have a loved one be your wedding officiant, they will need to be legally ordained or obtain a one-time license to perform the marriage. The officiant has the responsibility of performing the ceremony and making sure the marriage license is taken care of.
The Parents Of The Bride & Groom and Their Roles
While the role of your wedding party takes over most of the responsibilities of planning and delegating, the role of the parents of the bride and groom are just as important to note. They’ll be your backbone during the process and each have their own important role when it comes to your wedding planning process and day.
Father and Mother of the Bride
Needless to say, the roles of the Father and Mother of Bride is an important one. Traditionally, the bride’s parents pay for a bulk of the wedding. However, over the years, cost is typically covered between both families or even by the couple themselves. The mother of the bride typically spends the beginning of the day helping the bride get ready, making sure her gown fits perfectly whereas the father of the bride has the important role of walking the bride down the aisle and participating in the traditional father-daughter dance. If you don’t want either parent to feel left out in walking you down the aisle, consider having both parents with you as you head towards the altar. They both also have the key responsibility of making a speech during the reception, usually thanking guests for coming and congratulating the happy couple.
Father and Mother of the Groom
Though the father and mother of the bride usually take formal responsibilities, it doesn’t mean that the mother and father of the groom don’t have equally important roles as well. The mother of the groom is there to lend support to the groom and serve as a co-host on the special day. She may help with narrowing down the guests list, or with decoration ideas. The father of the groom can have the responsibility of helping guests find their seats and welcoming guests to the ceremony as well as lending support to the father of the bride. In terms of cost contribution, the father and mother of the groom may also pay for the rehearsal dinner and make a speech then. The nature of both roles for the father and mother of the groom is entirely up to the couple.
Your wedding party will have an active role in helping the bride plan and carrying out wedding day responsibilities. It’s important to remember that who you designate each role to is a personal decision between you and your partner. Make sure to choose those that will be there for guidance, support and all the small details in between. Ready for the next step? Head to our store locator link to see where you can find an authorized Moonlight retailer near you to say yes to the dress!