Maid of Honor Checklist
October 5th, 2016 Wedding IDEAS, INSPIRATION AND INSIDER TIPS
Maid of Honor Checklist
Your best friend is getting married, but what does this mean for you as the Maid/Matron of Honor? Don’t fret — we have broken down your responsibilities in this simple guide that will make you MVP by the time the bride and groom are ready for their “I Do’s”.
What is a maid/matron of honor?
First off, what does Maid/Matron of Honor mean?
A matron of honor is the bride’s honor attendant who is married. A maid of honor is the bride’s honor attendant who is not married. Being asked to being someone’s maid/matron of honor is a huge compliment, as it means you’re nearest and dearest to the bride. Oftentimes, maids and matrons of honor are family members or best friends.
What are the responsibilities of a Maid of Honor?
The maid of honor’s (MOH) responsibilities start the day you accept the honor. You are responsible for helping the bride through the whole planning process all the way through the big day. Essentially, you are her right-hand woman.
List of Maid of Honor Responsibilites
We will go through the different events leading up to a wedding that will be a big portion of your maid of honor duties. You should be willing to help and plan each of the events, and most of all, keep your bride organized and stress-free during these times!
MOH Duties Before the Wedding:
- Help the bride shop for her wedding gown and bridesmaid dresses. The bride is looking to you for advice and input on the dress she will be wearing on her big day. Be polite and honest, but also respectful when giving your advice. Just keep in mind that it’s going to be her who’ll be wearing the dress. Be ready to help the bride decide on a bridesmaid dress that fits all the bridesmaids’ style and personality. Be mindful that finding one dress that everyone looks good in can be a difficult task so be prepared to bring your calming and positive energy during your search for the perfect bridesmaid dress.
- Coordinate with bridesmaids to meet for dress fittings, and coordinate accessories for the dress. It is your responsibility to make sure all bridesmaids show up for their dress fittings and coordinate accessories, including jewelry and shoes, for the dress. Also, make sure that every bridesmaid has everything ready on the big day. Be aware that you will be paying for your own dresses and shoes as will the rest of the bridal party! But don’t sweat the cost — you can always re-wear those heels or shorten the hem of your bridesmaid dress to turn it into a cute summer dress.
- Coordinate the bridesmaid duties. You can delegate some responsibilities to the bridesmaids. For example, assign a bridesmaid to be in charge of the bride’s makeup touch-up bag. [Insert link to article]
- If asked, MOH helps the bride address invites, choose wedding colors, venue and cake flavor. The bride may also ask your opinion on choosing a color scheme, where the venue should be and what cake flavor would be best. She may also ask for your help sending out the Save-the-Date invites.
- MOH lets everyone know about the bride and groom’s registry. Letting guests know about the bride and groom’s registry ahead of time allows them to decide what they want to do regarding the gift to the special couple.
- Plan the bridal shower or if the bride requests a bachelorette party. One big responsibility for a MOH is planning the bridal shower and/or bachelorette party. You want to make sure that the bride’s close friends and family are invited. So be sure to go over the guest list, choice of venue, food, drinks and games at these events and maybe party favors. It really depends on what the bride wants, so be sure to communicate with her and make sure it fits the style she is looking for. Also, sometimes a bride’s mother or grandmother may want to host the bridal shower and you can step back and let them handle the arrangements. You can always focus on the bachelorette party if the bride’s family is looking to host a more formal bridal shower.
- Keep a record of all gifts received from all parties and showers or collaborate with your fellow bridesmaids for this task. This task can be handled by you or a bridesmaid. Keep track of all gifts received at all parties and showers so the bride can send personalized thank you notes to the corresponding person.
- Help make sure all bridesmaids show up to any dinners or other activities. The bride may ask you to make sure the bridesmaids are at the rehearsal dinner early to help set up.
Maid of Honor Responsibilities During the Ceremony:
- Arrange bride’s veil and train when she gets to the altar. Once the bride reaches the altar, it is your responsibility to adjust the bride’s veil and train for all the photo opportunities. You want to make sure she is camera ready at all times. You and the rest of the bridal party can coordinate together how to arrange the train and veil. Be sure to work together so everything goes smoothly!
- Hold bride’s bouquet during ceremony. Be prepared to hold the bride’s bouquet once she reaches the altar.
- Carry groom’s ring. This is a very important task. Your responsibility is to hold the groom’s ring for the bride until it is time for them to exchange rings.
- MOH along with all bridesmaids should answer any questions guests may have: where to sit, sign guestbook. On the big day, the last thing the bride wants to deal with is guests coming up to ask her where they are sitting. It is your job along with the bridesmaids to answer guests’ questions. Bridesmaids also can remind guests to sign the guestbook upon arrival.
- Witness and sign marriage certificate. You and the best man will serve as witnesses for the signing of the marriage certificate.
- Help the bride touch up her makeup and change into her different dresses. The wedding is an all-day event and every bride wants to look her best all day long. You should help her touch up her makeup in between events or when needed. View our guide on the perfect bridal touch up kit to see what wedding day essentials you should keep on hand for the bride. The bride may have multiple dresses for her big day. Be prepared to help her change out of one and into another. Make sure every zipper is zipped and any strings are tied before sending her out of the dressing room!
- Be prepared to give a toast to the happy couple at the rehearsal dinner or reception after the best man. This is not a requirement but it is a wonderful gesture that the bride will most definitely appreciate. Tip for the toast: Keep it short but meaningful. The focus of your toast should be on the happy couple. Try to avoid inside jokes and long drawn out stories about the adventures you and your friend had over the years. If it is a story that you have to explain a lot in detail then it is probably better to tell those stories at a different time. Also be prepared to get emotional and for the waterworks to start, so keep tissues close by!